HI Jacquie I’m a mature married crossdresser and so love dressing as a woman and having thoughts of meeting men too.
I can’t help who I am as i so like being a woman, however not sure I’d ever become one , maybe if younger I would have.
Here’s the thing if I told wife shed leave me and lose all my friends, family etc as I see in many cases that this happens .
I’ve often thought about telling wife but I’m scared to do that must I just live secretly as a woman for the rest of my life, and cheat on her with men as I’d like to meet a man to. I’m 56years old.
Thanks for advice
Thank you for reaching out with your current situations.
Question for you
If your life was like a blank piece of paper, what would you want?
A life where you live your authentic self, or life where there are secrets and lies?
Everyone has the right to be happy. That includes your wife.
Life is too short to not be real to yourself and the people around you. Trust and respect is one of the most important things within a relationship. That includes the relationship yourself.
56yrs is not old.
If it is going to make you happy to live the remaining of your life lying to everyone around you , including yourself then that is your choice.
If you want to be true to yourself then you need to have a plan of action. No better way than to write it out first .
It will be uncomfortable but how long is that going to last ? Weeks, months, years or for the rest of your life.
Write down all your fears and objections with a timeline and be honest with yourself.
What is your relationship like with your wife now?
Do she already know or suspect that something is not right?
Are you friends can you tell her how you feel , how will she react?
Where you going to live if this all comes out, how you going to live, what will day to day life be like for you?
Who are your true friends, where can you make new friends? Realistically are you ready for your life to change.
Write down as many questions you can think of.
Think about other questions people will ask you. Have answers to each and everyone of them.
Have some clarity. Be prepared
Yes this is scary, but at least you are being honest.
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