I am finding my marriage a bore if I am honest. The same in same out day to days routine. I actually prefer my fishing friends rather than being with my wife. Love life, conversations and enjoying each other NIL Not sure if she is feeling the same but really just a bit bored with it all I am in my forties do I give it all up, house car money to risk maybe just put up with it Be interested in your views
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Life Changes and as individuals, you change as well. I want you to think back to when you first got together.
What was it you first liked about each other?
Now think about all the experiences you have shared together?
Being bored is a strong word and it is related to expectations
What are your expectations of marriage?
What does an ideal marriage look like to you?
Does your wife know what your expectations are?
Miscommunication happens when your expectations are completely different.
You mentioned the day-to-day routine and finding your marriage a bore.
Couple of questions to think about.
There are 24 hours in day.
Is it just the time you spend with your wife a bore?
Possibly your career is not challenging you and it is easier to think I am not happy with my relationship.
Do you have Children?
Maybe your wife’s prospectus as changed, and her focus is on the children, and you are not getting the attention you want or need. Have you physically asked for quality time together?
Are you taking responsibility of your own life and own happiness, or are you wanting your wife to make changes without her knowing what that is?
You look like you have found a hobby that you enjoy. Which gives you an escape.
What does your wife do as an escape?
What do you do together as an escape?
Most good relationships start with a smile and laughter. To make a relationship work two people need to be on the same page this includes healthy communication
You have committed to this relationship. You own yourself and your wife to try everything before you decide to quit.
it takes 2 people to make a relationship work – What have you done to make it work?
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